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Antonio Castellaneta's avatar

I was struck by the idea that the distance between who we are and how we are received is not a flaw to fix, but evidence that something real passed between two people. Some of the most living things always resist a summary.

Lucy Blachnia's avatar

Right? Funny enough, it’s not a new concept.

Job Burns's avatar

This goes along with an idea I've come across which is, if your family and friends don't understand anything of what you are doing, then you are doing something right! I think it means, you are breaking patterns, trying different solutions, new ideas, away from average thinking, and people, especially family will judge, point fingers, pull you back into average. Stay opaque, it's great.

Magdalena Gereva, PhD's avatar

This is a very important topic that is resolved always individually. Who you are and how others perceive you will remain a mystery. I think mature personality will stick to their identity manifesto no matter what...

B3 BADASS | ADHD Insights's avatar

Oh I'm all in for the opaque, unsanded, RAW me 🤘🏻

Uncle Albert's avatar

Interesting take on one’s career and trajectory of it…since i am funemployed/retired now, one aspect of my whole career, in retrospect, was that my bosses always knew I would tell them the truth, as I knew it to be (at the time).

My attitude then as now has always been: “Damn the torpedoes. Full speed ahead.”

Onward thru the Fog, as Oat Willie sez

Lucy Blachnia's avatar

Good for you Albert. Sometimes saying the truth out loud is what cost us titles/relationship, seems like you chose to stop pretending and say how the things are anyway. No smoke and mirrors to please the others.

Uncle Albert's avatar

Thanking you…when all is said and done, I just did what I learned from my wonderful parents about always telling the truth, no matter what the consequences were to me as a kid or young adult